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mabaker
04-19-2011, 04:30 PM
Sorry if you have already read this or seen my other posts - but I got lost putting my story in the wrong forum - still glad of any advice - thank you.

Does anyone know about 12.5% minoxidil? I've been recommended it - sounds scaryily strong!

Hello - when I was a child my hair was my joy - whatever else was messed up in my life - my hair was beautiful - and probably that's how I let it become so much of me.

4 years ago my hair started to fall out - I believe - as a result of extreme stress. This triggered a breakdown, I was suicidal, and I ended up in hospital. I went to see a trichologist in London who uncovered low ferratin - he couldn't seem to find any increase in stress hormones (can't understand why) and he told me I was suffering from an "interupted hair growth cycle" - big help. I now had a mental health record with a diagnoses of bipolar2 and was on all sorts of horrid useless antidepressants - and nobody, not one of the health care professionals I was to-ing and fro-ing from seemed to believe or understand that my hair was falling out and that was the main problem - I was very attached to my hair, I was having an existential crisis but they kept on diagnosing me as pyschotic. The antidepressants just made me eat and sleep which made me feel even more awful - and my mood didn't lift at all.

So I went to see a gynaecologist (the hero of this story) to see if stress had pushed me into a menopausal state causing hair loss - no this was not what the bloods showed - but he insisted I had a mammogram - and this showed that I had breast cancer. It was wide spread in my left breast and so I had a mastectomy,reconstruction and reduction of the right breast to match the left. I had a new breast made from my excess tummy and so I now have the best boobs ever and have had a tummy tuck too - what's not to like?!!

Chemotherapy saw of what was left of my hair and I didn't believe it would ever come back. Eventually I stopped taking the antidepressants and got something else that helped with my chronic back pain - something else the doctors dismissed. Amitryptaline - is what I use as a sedative and it can also be taken as an antidepressant at 100mg. It does bring weight gain and chronic constipation with it - but it's good for me. I hadn't taken any of it since 2009 -until recently - when my hair started to shed again.

After chemo my hair did come back and it was glorious - grey and white with a head full of curls - it seemed like a fairy tale ending to a total nightmare - and I was so glad to be back and fit, loving and enjoying my wonderful family. So 4 great years went by - I felt better, blessed and grateful. I felt in those years better than I ever had - during the nightmare I had confronted so many fears and issues with my counsellor - I'd been to hell and back - I felt beautiful again - more so than I ever had and I started to truly and finally enjoy being me.

However around about Christmas 2010 I started to struggle with my periods. During Chemo I had gone into post menopause - and felt like death but was given HRT - femeston - which according to my trichologist is one of the best for hair - livial is bad as it's male hormone driven. I am able to take HRT as my cancer was not oestrogen receptive. About 4 months after my chemo stopped my periods returned and I stopped the HRT.

By about Jan this year I felt as if I was going mad - everything upset me - the days just before my period were hell - I got spotty - everything was wonky and I felt scarily depressed. I thought a haircut would help - Oh unhappy day - it was then that I realised that my hair was much thinner than it had been. By March I knew it was falling out. The top layers were curling up and dropping out. I went to my GP (who immediately noticed my mental health record and offered me antidepressants) I declined and insisted on some blood tests. The bloods showed that I'm into my menopause - I felt it would come early as my cycle was never the same after chemo - something else that the doctors always dismissed. They didn't even believe me during chemo - when I said I must be menopausal - but the bloods came back at post - menopausal levels! My GP basically told me I was making a fuss and he would never never give me HRT. Well I didn't listen to him and went straight back to the lovely gynaecologist and told him I was already taking some HRT that I had left over from Chemo days - he okayed that as fine and wrote my GP saying as much. He checked all the other usual stuff - all fine except sex hormones. I should have asked him how the blood tests results compared to the last lot I had, as I feel as if my testosterone is out of control - but he didn't mention it. Anyone know about testosterone and at what levels it should be?

I think the HRT might have slowed down the hair loss at the back - but over the top and temples - not so sure - lost I think about 50% and the white hairs are still weak and easily falling. So as my gyny is on holiday I have started taking 2mg of Femeston instead of 1mg. I don't really care about risks - I don't want to live through or put my family through this hell again. I'd rather have 5 more good years - than struggle on for 20. Well that's what I thought a few days ago - I've since found all you lovely courageous ladies here and been in touch with some friends - and have started to imagine just letting it all go, truly facing myself and being at peace.

So here we are - I didn't think I would have to walk this line again - but I am and if anyone has experienced any part of this rambling story I'd love to hear from you - with advice or just to say 'hey sister - you are beautiful'. Generally I love this beautiful universe and the people in it. Sorry to droan on but as I'm sure you all know - this is tough. Light and love to allx

ForeverBlue
04-19-2011, 07:59 PM
Hello,

I can't help you out with the menopause issue, but i can relate to having a breakdown, being suicidal, and ending up in the hospital. I went through that 3 times last year, and i still stuggle with thoughts of suicide every day.

My hair loss started about 2 1/2 years ago, due to Thyroid disease. I handled it pretty well the first year, because i believed it would stop, and grow back. By the second year, my hair loss got worse, started to look really thin, and i noticed none was growing back. It just kept getting worse day by day. I cried every single day for hours after i would shower. All the hair that would fall out when i washed it just tramatized me. One day i just took a bunch of pills, drank a lot, and ended up in the hospital. after a day in there, they transfered me to a mental hospital ( against my will ) for 3 days. I pretended to be ok while in there, so they would release me, and they did. When i came back home, i was in much worse shape. i just kept getting more and more depressed, and tried to hurt myself again. then a few months later, it happened again, and that time i ended up in the hospital for a week.

My hair loss has devastated me beyond belief. Not one day goes by that i don't cry hysterically for hours at a time. I haven't left my house in over 6 months, because i'm so embarrassed by the way my hair looks, and i fight suicidal feelings every day. It destroyed my marriage, and i haven't seen, or spoken to any friends since last summer. I sit alone in my house 24/7, and pray that my life will be over soon. Not having any support is the worst part. Not one person ever showed me any compassion for what i've went through. I've had doctors be horribly mean and rude to me, and a few of them actually laughed at me. I never went to another doctor after that incident, and i never will.

I'm really sorry that you have to go through this hell again ( like once isn't enough ). It's horrible to have no self esteem, and feel like a freak because your hair is falling out. You've been through so much, you sure don't deserve to have to go through any more pain. I wish i could say it gets easier, but i can't. What i can tell you, is that you are definitely not alone. I can relate to many of the things you went through, especially the doctors not understanding what the real problem was. One thing i've learned from this, is that no doctors take hair loss seriously, because they say, well, it can't kill you. I happen to strongly disagree with that.

I wish you the best, and i hope things improve for you soon. Take care.

mabaker
04-19-2011, 08:39 PM
Hello - thank you for replying to my post. I'ts so so terrible and inhumane that any doctor laughed at you and I really hear your pain. I'm thinking of you and hope that you feel lifted at some point soon. Perhaps some of your friends would be glad to hear from you? It's good to share and be loved - even when we feel un-lovable. I will add you as a friend and will be happy to hear from you if ever you would like to talk. Mabakerx