Emotionally drained

[sonia2009]

Hi im 21 years old and since i was 13 i started to loose my hair. Over the years i have tried various medications, treatments but nothing has worked and now at 21 my hair has become so bad that i am unable to tie it up. I think today has been the worst day for me hence me searching for advice and support. I broke down today cried all day and even when i told myself i was being stupid and to stop i couldn't. My mum found me crying and really did not understand she just left me feeling worse. Over the 8 years i have never broke down but today it hit me how bad my hair has got. Stupid thing is on tuesday i have an appointment with a hair specialist about having a hair piece or another solution. I understand this and keep thinking its only a few more days until maybe finding a solution which works (fingers crossed), but i still feel really down and feel like no one understands or realises how important and emotionally draining it is to loose your hair. Think im here for support and to know im not alone and im not the only person out there who breaks down, and that i have the right to break down.

[VictoriaG]

Hi Sonia, I'm so sorry you're going through this too. You are most definitely not the only person who breaks down, we all go through that. You have absolutely every right to feel that way. You're only human! I really hope that you find something that works well for you at your appointment next week. Good luck.

[Dara]

People really don't understand how devastating this can be. My family just sort of brushes it off. I think they don't take my hairloss seriously because it is not a life threatening condition. I feel much better now that I have a nice topper. I don't worry as much as I used to about trying to hide my hairloss. However, it took me awhile to find the right kind of topper. My first one was "OK" and I learned lots about toppers. I recently got a new one and I love it!

[Sammy7]

Hi!

People (who have a full head of thick hair) do not understand at all. Also on TV there are products for everything from wrinkle cream to losing 20 pounds in a week!! It seems that the issue of a woman losing her hair is pushed under the carpet. I hope your appointment goes well. Have you tried a really short hair style and really play up your eyes with makeup? Some of the really shorter hairstyles look amazing on certain women.

I wish you all the luck and I feel horrible that you are dealing with this at a young age. Don't give up...

[lazy]

Sonia, we all feel for you and we are all here for the same reason as you. Some people, with the best intentions don't know what to say, or how to handle someone who feels such anxiety, they can offer no explanations or positive help.

You are far from stupid. We all have really bad days when we feel so frustrated and can't find the strength to get over the hurdle of yet another day of coping.

Try your utmost to look forward with optimism, as hard as that may be, like instead of feeling down have you decided on the style of your hair piece and what you want to look like. Focus on what you style you want to achieve and just go for it. Anything is possible you know and I wish you everything you want for yourself.

[Lucy4]

Hi Sonia.
You have been dealing with this an awfully long time for one so young. The advice you've been given so far here has all been good. And I would just add that because you are so young, you don't have a lot of experience and hindsight to draw on yet--hindsight which can help you get through the down times. You will find over time, that you will have periods of improvement and times when you know that you're looking great. Then you'll have those times to help keep you optimistic while you're battling this condition in the future.

[feelingwiggy]

I think we all know how you feel... it just beats you up on a variety of levels. You will
LOVE a hairpiece... I can't wait til you get it and let us know. Be happy and thankful there are great hairpiece products out there. Bless you, Judy