New/Old member reaching out...

[LilSakuraMama]

Some of you may remember me...its been a few years. I've been busy. I've got a daughter now who just turned one. *check profile pic's* I recently lost my job due to our awesome economy! And had some marital problems...so those things have contributed to the significant amount of hairloss I've had.

I mean it was bad before...but now? No hair cut, toppik or comb over is going to make me comfortable out in public now.

I'm nervous... my husbands a good man but has openly admitted he misses my long hair. I've gained weight from the baby and I know I'm heading toward the "big shave". I'm just not sure how I'm going to handle it.

I'm afraid my heads going to be all lumpy and have scars *I have head acne*... and that I'm going to go nuts wearing wigs. I'm afraid of trying to go out there and pull off a wig interviewing for jobs. I hate this feeling...like I'm missing a limb. And I feel alone. I can't talk to my husband about it, my family *which are all 2,000 miles away* or what few friends I have left. I hate feeling alone. I want my daughter to have a mother to be proud of... but some mornings its the most I can do to just take care of her. Then sit depressed in front of the tv wishing I was out and feeling better...thinking "if I had hair I could feel comfortable doing this, or that". Of course my hypothyroidism doesn't help my energy level either. I feel like I'm heading into a bad place. And I need to reconnect with people who have been here. :(

[Reb]

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter -- that is great news.

One thing to remember is that you will be beautiful with or without hair, and there are ways to feel good and confident without using wigs. There are a couple of great websites that sell scarves that are truly gorgeous -- every color of the rainbow and stylish (and a heck of a lot cheaper/more comfortable than wigs!) -- and like others have said on this forum, women are beautiful bald too. I know this is going to sound cliche' (sorry, don't have the writing skills to express what I want to say), but beauty is not what's on your head, but what's in your heart.

There's a video at http://www.4women.com/options.php (down at the bottom, called "Brave Beauty") about a women who lost all of her hair and the scarves she wears/makes. Inspirational --

[TEforMe?]

Congrats on your baby girl! That is wonderful!

I'm so sorry you are feeling down. You are not alone, and I know it is so hard to admit, but your self worth is not tied to how much hair you have. I have to remind myself of that all. the. time. It is so hard, but you are not alone! *hugs* to you!

[Denise B.]

Hi,
Congrats on the baby!!! I know that feeling of scrutinizing everyone's hair you see. I know this isn't the most positive or productive way to handle those feelings. But, I try to pick out some flaw in the beautiful, full head of hair folks. In my head I'm having one of those evil villian laughs, like I'm so pleased with myself for finding that flaw. Remember the Weakest Link Lady show host. Like that. Hehehehe. All superior.....
I know this is soooooo cliche so don't clobber me but everyone has something that they would rather not have. Unfortunately ours can be readily seen by those we encounter. It feels like everyone we see is probably judging us too. I know I'm better than that and the people that really love me don't care whether I'm bald or purple polka dotted. I'm sure holds true for you also. Sending you HUGE WARM FUZZIES!!!!!!!!!!!:>
Denise B.

[sherrybalesteros]

Congratulations for a wonderful baby girl!

I just want you to know that losing your hair is not the end of the world for you. Actually, very far from it. There are a LOT of options out there for you to consider and think about in having your hair back. The technology nowadays is outstanding. So go and research and put your feet back on the ground. Take care!

[evie]

Hi everyone !
I been through hell and back a few times with the hair's problems ( if read my profile or see my picture you would understand why...)
Now I'm back again, stronger than before the hair's disaster started.
It was a long and painful journey for me. But I am hoping that even with my limited knowledge and experience with the disease I still could be able to contribute little something by sharing my own living nightmare story with people that suffers the same pain.
I'd learned that medications and treatment not the only thing to prevent or stopping hair loss. For me, not only its failed to help in anyway, but also put me through series of allergic reactions from it. Lost hope, I decided to stop all kind of treatment for good.
Lucky that I'd found some peace from a get away trip. My hairs started to grow back since then, and when I was able to move on, focus in something else more important in order to survive in this world, my hair stop falling completely
I gotten my hairs back, it may not last forever, but for now I am happy, and graceful for it. I really wish things could better for everyone too.:>