Need some support

[blackie]

Hi everyone.

I am 46 and been losing my hair since I was 31. No one in my family is bald and over the years I have had ALL the tests done and various doctors have said one thing or another. My iron(ferritin) tested at 31 and so I am trying to up this although the doctor said it is normal. I know from reading that it needs to be higher. My scalp is covered with 100's of tiny hairs but the last doctor said these are hairs that are shrinking and not growing. I am so depressed, confused and my self worth at an all time low. It is effecting my marriage as I cannot cope with the hair loss and feel unattractive and am pushing my husband away. I can barely get through the day. Doctors always ask if I am depressed or stressed. What they do not seem to get is it the HAIRLOSS that causes me to feel this way. Has anyone out there experienced loads of short hairs on top of their head(all wispy and fly away) as the next stage of thinning? Sorry for the rant. I have spent ages on this site looking and this is my first post.

Thanks ladies:)

[blackie]

Can anyone out there help me with some answers? Hair loss is getting worse....my bangs/fringe are getting wispy with thin and short frizzy bits. I think it is pretty certain I will have to get a hair system soon. Have just been told to take YAZ by my gyny but am scared due to reading about clot risks. I was told that it is safe but everything I read is scarying me.. I am almost 47 and really at the end of searching for answers to my hair loss.

[ForeverBlue]

Blackie,

I can't answer your question about the short hairs, but i can totally relate to the depression you feel. I'm about the same age as you, and i've had hair loss the last 2 years due to Thyroid disease. I wanted to answer your post because of something you wrote. You say that you are pushing your husband away because of your hair loss. I can tell you from experience, that is the worst thing you can do. I let hair loss destroy my marriage, and all my other relationships. I wish i could go back in time and change that. Now i'm alone, and going through this alone is horrible.

I pushed everybody away, and wouldn't talk to anybody because i was so depressed, i couldn't deal with anything. Nobody understood that i was just angry about my hair loss, so that's why i acted that way. They just all thought i was being mean. Nobody talks to me anymore because of all this. I've tried to apologize, but it didn't help. I don't want to see somebody else do the stupid thing that i did, and end up alone. You need support to get through tough times, and even though other people can't understand what it's like to go through this, they can still be there for you. I understand that men especially are the worst at understanding this ( my husband didn't get it at all ), but it's not worth breaking up your marriage over it, like i did.

I have lost all my self esteem also. I cry, and am horribly depressed every single day, but i wish i would have never let hair loss ruin my relationships. That's been the hardest thing of all.

Hope things get better for you soon. Take care.

[blackie]

Dear Forever Blue

Thank you for taking the time to reply and give me some advice. I have decided to get a grip(not easy) and try and control the sheer sense of panic thay I am feeling as my hair thins(def worse than before). This sight has really made me feel not so alone. I hope you are OK and not too alone. Hair loss really can ruin our lives and no one really understands except us. Thank you and we all need to remember that we are not alone......we have this sight to reach out to when we are feeling low.

Thank you x