JulieAnn
10-10-2010, 02:37 AM
I hope I have found the right forum in which to introduce mself.
I am 54 and have been struggling with hair loss for 24 years. I have androgenic alopecia and every day of those last 24 years I have watched my hair shed and felt a sense of helplessness.
Along with that has been a sense of dread, knowing that one day it was going to progress to the point that I would have to wear a wig.
I can honestly say that I have been feeling depressed and sad for many many years. Its wrecked my quality of life in that its always looming, even on a very good hair day. I did well on Aldactone (spironolactone) for a long time but then had to stop taking it.
A year ago I got a custom hairpiece but was hardly able to communicate with the stylist when I got it because when I put it on I just wasnt able to accept the whole idea. She must have thought I was nuts.
I put it on a stand and watched it for a year because I felt I could still look ok. Myhusband and mother thought I was nuts not to try it on.
Over the years I have thought to myself that lots of women have breast implants due to breast surgery or dont have any breasts. So having to wear a wig is better than that. If they can adjust to that, surely I can adjust to wearing a wig.
Somehow I feel I am going to be fake and it makes me feel like I am aging in a negative way.
If I ever left my marriage, which I have considered, I wonder about the whole issue of how it would be accepted by a man. It ridiculous to stay in a marriage out of that fear and I am embarrased to admit it.
Tonite I did wear the piece around the house and my daughter complimented me and didnt know I had it on. I did feel better bc I threw it on and it isnt really very styled after sitting around for a year and it still looked ok.
I sure would appreciate any help, support or encouragement. I never wanted to arrive at this place of having to wear a wig but I fear I am there.
Thank you,
JA
I am 54 and have been struggling with hair loss for 24 years. I have androgenic alopecia and every day of those last 24 years I have watched my hair shed and felt a sense of helplessness.
Along with that has been a sense of dread, knowing that one day it was going to progress to the point that I would have to wear a wig.
I can honestly say that I have been feeling depressed and sad for many many years. Its wrecked my quality of life in that its always looming, even on a very good hair day. I did well on Aldactone (spironolactone) for a long time but then had to stop taking it.
A year ago I got a custom hairpiece but was hardly able to communicate with the stylist when I got it because when I put it on I just wasnt able to accept the whole idea. She must have thought I was nuts.
I put it on a stand and watched it for a year because I felt I could still look ok. Myhusband and mother thought I was nuts not to try it on.
Over the years I have thought to myself that lots of women have breast implants due to breast surgery or dont have any breasts. So having to wear a wig is better than that. If they can adjust to that, surely I can adjust to wearing a wig.
Somehow I feel I am going to be fake and it makes me feel like I am aging in a negative way.
If I ever left my marriage, which I have considered, I wonder about the whole issue of how it would be accepted by a man. It ridiculous to stay in a marriage out of that fear and I am embarrased to admit it.
Tonite I did wear the piece around the house and my daughter complimented me and didnt know I had it on. I did feel better bc I threw it on and it isnt really very styled after sitting around for a year and it still looked ok.
I sure would appreciate any help, support or encouragement. I never wanted to arrive at this place of having to wear a wig but I fear I am there.
Thank you,
JA