Should finding a helpful endocrinologist be this hard?? So, I called my local hospital to make an appointment with an endo last week. They said that I needed a referral before they would take me. So I requested one from my dermatologist's office. They gave me the number of another practice, since they didn't know anyone at the hospital. I called the endocrinology office and left two voice messages last week. Finally, they get back to me this morning. The nurse there asked what my reason for appointment was, and I went on to (painfully) describe my hair loss and how I think it may be hormone related. Then she tells me that I need an actual diagnosis, like thyroid disorders or diabetes. I understand that these conditions are serious, and I'm thankful I don't have to go through that, but how does not having these conditions make my current situation any less valid? Any less painful? Any less deserving of help? If I'm willing to pay for the visit, why should she care why I'm there? I accepted there would be no help from this woman, or this office. And when I asked if she knew of anyone else that might help me, I got a very condescending "No". Thinking about that conversation makes me wish I could have reached through that phone and ripped out a good handful of that woman's hair. Then she'd have the pleasure of knowing exactly how I feel. Now I'm back to my desk, unable to do anything but dwell on that conversation. I feel so helpless. It's like "Okay, back to square one, again...". I have to grit my teeth to keep from crying, which would be an incredibly embarassing thing to have happen at work. Why are some doctors (and nurses) so obviously arrogant and egotistical?? Is self-importance something they teach you in med school?? My only comfort is the old saying: What comes around goes around. It's my sincerest hope that some day they get a taste of their own medicine; that they get brushed off like many of us here have been. Perhaps then they'll learn a little empathy.